Well, folks, we’ve made it! In just a few days, our twins will be one whole year old and we’re all still alive. Despite losing a little sanity and a lot of sleep, we’ve gained plenty of patience and baby knowledge. If you’re expecting twins, you might be freaking out a little about how the first year will go. Don’t lie, you’ve been scouring Google and Pinterest trying to figure out how to deal.
If you’ve reached this page, lucky you! I’m here to give you my top tips to help you survive your first year with twins. Keep in mind, I’m a brand new mom and have had no prior children. Each of these tips has helped me immensely, so I hope they can help you too! (This post may contain affiliate links. At no extra cost to you, these links help me to keep this website up and running.)
1. Get those babies on a schedule!
You’re not going to sleep much at first, because your twins will need to eat. Do you know how to get even LESS sleep? By having to feed them separately. If you start in the NICU, they can help get your newborns on a schedule, because they’ll probably function according to a schedule as well. Our NICU did this and when we took our babies home, we kept the same routine as best we could. Everyone did the same things at the same times. To this day, H and H are still eating and sleeping in sync.
2. Plan, plan, plan!
What’s worse than going for a diaper run with a newborn? Going for a diaper run with two newborns. Whether you are buying in bulk somewhere like Sam’s Club, or ordering online through Amazon Prime, you don’t want to run out of essentials like diapers, butt cream, or wipes. (Mom hack: With Amazon, you can subscribe to have items automatically delivered, so you won’t even have to remember to buy them!) The same goes for YOUR needs. Set yourself up for success, don’t set yourself for a trip to the store just to get deodorant or orange juice. It’s annoying. If you can, plan your meals ahead as well. Some days don’t work out and dinner time rolls around without you realizing it. You’ll have no time to cook, and also haven’t eaten since the night before. It’s miserable.
3. Accept when days don’t go so smoothly.
As I mentioned above, sometimes things won’t work out so well. Instead of dwelling on it, just move on. Those babies are new here and didn’t have diaper blow outs on purpose, so calm down. They also didn’t mean to get their poop on you, so don’t take it personally. What you should take, is a deep breath. With twins, you kind of have to go with the flow a little bit. I know I said to set a schedule, but that schedule has to have a little give.
4. Remember that these days won’t last forever.
When it’s getting real tough and you think you’re not going to make it, you will. These newborn days that can be draining will pass. You won’t always have spit up on your shirt and you won’t need to shampoo your carpet because your twins projectile vomitted simutaneously. Instead of focusing on the bad, focus on the good. Maybe even have a good laugh or two if you can. Not maybe, definitely do this.
My husband is a superhero. He has gone to work and come home to help me EVERY.SINGLE.DAY (except when traveling for work). I bet you anything that there are times when he wants to come home and nap, but he knows that I would appreciate any help I can get. So, what does he do? He helps me. He changes diapers, helps me cook dinner, grabs me a snack while I’m pumping, listens to me
complain vent, and so on. If you treat parenting like a team effort, it is far, far easier.
6. Accept Help from Others!
We don’t live near family or our besties, but I sure wish we did. My husband can’t be around for everything we do. There have been doctor visits where I lugged both twins up flights of stairs because I was lost. There have been trips to the store where I couldn’t get what I needed because the babies were upset. The list goes on. I’m an independent person, but I’ll also admit that I could’ve used an extra hand on more than one occasion. If you have help around, utilize it! Don’t take advantage, but don’t put yourself in a stressful situation if you don’t have to. AND, you might even get to go to Target by yourself!
7. Prepare! Have items that will assist you, not just diapers and wipes!
I wrote a post of must have items for newborns, specifically twins. These are all things that made my life easier, and will make yours easier as well. You only have two arms, and as your first year passes, those babies will grow like weeds. You’ll want a place for them to peacefully nap or play, without any worry. You’ll need a way to get them around, feed them, etc. All of the answers to your problems are on that list! (If you’re wondering what to pack in a diaper bag, find out here!)
8. Give yourself grace.
Please do this. If you’re a first time mom, bringing a new baby home is hard enough. Add another baby, plus your ZERO experience on parenting, and you’re going to be emotionally frazzled. Twins are rough. You’re going to feel like your screwing up x2. When you feel that way, remember that you are your own worst critic.You’re going to survive. If I made it this far, you can too. Your house might not be the neatest all the time(ain’t nobody got time for that), you might need to order a lot of pizza at first, and you might not get a haircut for 6 months, but WHO CARES. If you have happy, healthy babies, then all is well. (P.S.- Talking to mom friends helps a LOT with this part!)
If you’re expecting twins, leave a comment below! If you’ve had twins and have any tips to share as well, then please feel free to drop them below as well, and thanks for reading!