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“I have no idea how you do it with two!” I hear this phrase pretty frequently, and while it’s
hilarious nice that people think I’m “doing it” with two, it often doesn’t feel that way. My twins are now almost 18 months, and while many things have gotten easier (like feeding them), some things have also gotten harder (also, like feeding them). Still, I’m often asked for tips on how to handle twins, or just two close in age, especially once they become mobile toddlers. Well, get ready, because here is my tip:
Give birth to children who can already walk well, talk, use the bathroom, and clean their own messes. BUT, make sure they are still the size of regular babies, because watching them grow is the sweetest and you’re not a monster!
Is that not humanly possible?
Okay, well then, I guess I’ll give you some other tips that you can actually use. These little gems may or may not help you, but I’m tossing them your way. With any luck, maybe I can help make your life a little easier! Alright, here we go…
1. Find at least one activity that keeps you sane AND prioritize it.
I know, you’re thinking, “what does this have to do with dealing with two toddlers?” Um, everything. The better you feel about yourself, the more complete you feel, the more good vibes you pass on. So, find something that makes you feel good! For me, it’s the gym. The gym makes me feel human. Not only do I love working out (even when it’s difficult), but it also helps keep my mom-bod in check. I have friends who are into crafts, or enjoy a good book. Whatever it is, try and make it a “must do” portion of your day. You’ll feel better inside and out. We all know the saying, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy,” and it’s true!
2. Make your gear work for your kids AND yourself.
Ladies and gents, my stroller has the turn radius of a fidget spinner (I’m still not sure what those are for). It can climb trails, run miles and miles (but not more than like 5, because mama isn’t going that far), is comfortable for both kids to nap in, and can adjust enough for my 5 ft. tall self, and my 6 ft. tall husband to both push easily. Why is all of this important? Because we’re an active family and a stroller is your LIFELINE for leaving the house! If it weren’t for my stroller with a large basket under the seats, I wouldn’t have been able to get nearly as much grocery shopping done either. Just think practically with these items, and consider what would make your everyday life easier.
Another example: Baby carriers. No one wants to wear their toddler AND their diaper bag. Get a carrier with some storage. My hubby and I can each wear a baby, along with their extra diapers, butt cream, and wipes, all in the carrier! Are you starting to see what I mean? Make the best of your baby gear!
3. Make everyday things convenient!
Your days might still be a mess sometimes. Not the same spit-up filled mess that the first year brought you, but a mess nonetheless. With two little ones, convenience is often a lifesaver. There are times when you’re rushing to clean up after a breakfast, just to make it to the doctor on time. This is where your dishwasher comes in handy, or paper plates if you’re into that. There are occasions when you need a cart to shop. This is when you park next to a cart return area. There are times when you think you’ll have to skip lunch, because there is “no time.” This is when you find a good single serving meal like Tai Pei single serve entrees. You all might have your go-tos in this department, but let me tell you about mine:
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4. Do NOT shop during naptime!
You can drive to the store and let them nap in the car, but heaven help you if your kids are tired while you’re shopping. Toddlers pitch huge fits when they’re exhausted, it’s not fun. So, there is not much more to say about this.
5. Let those two kids figure each other out, and encourage them to play together (without you).
By this, I kind of mean that you need to step back and see how things pan out to an extent. Your kids might have very different personalities and they need to learn a little about each other. What does this mean? They’re probably going to argue a little and fight over a few things (even if they can’t talk yet). I used to instinctually run over and try to break up and arguments. After awhile, I realized I wasn’t helping them learn to deal with each other, I was just separating them. Now, petty fights over toys only last a couple of minutes, then they’re over it. They’ve learned to play together, but also to play separately when they feel like it. In other words, they can share space well.
Extra tip: This is sort of like independent play. They learn to entertain themselves without you, and YOU get a moment to shower, clean, pick your nose, or whatever.
6. Bring snacks everywhere.
EVERYWHERE. To the doctor, to your friend’s house, to the park, to the store to get more snacks. Bring them. And a drink. That helps too. If my twins are acting out, 90% of the time I can give them a snack and then all is right in the world. I almost believe that the right snack can end all wars. (If you’re wondering, they love almost any snack, but veggie straws both satisfy and entertain them.)
7. Remember those little people are new here!
Having two toddlers at once can cause you to feel like you’re losing your mind. You’ll get frustrated quickly and want to lose it over tiny things. One kid will be smearing food all over himself, while the other is pouring the dog’s water bowl over his head. It’s tough. What helps me a lot is to remind myself that these tiny humans are new to the WORLD. Many of their feelings, discoveries, and experiences are happening for the first time and they’re just learning how to handle it. Try and respond to each situation with that thought in mind, even when both kids are going different directions at once. For me, it automatically makes me more patient, and for all of us, the situations are easier to handle.
If any of you folks out there with twins or two young ones have any amazing tips for our readers, be sure to leave them in the comments! Don’t forget, if you’re into convenient meals, check out Tai Pei single serve entrees and utilize this coupon for your grub!